Children can often bond over something as simple as a shared interest in a toy or a mutual love for goldfish crackers. For adults, the process is decidedly more difficult. Cultural boundaries, marital status and age difference are enough to make you give up on friends when you move to a new place. But putting yourself out there and reaching out to others is the only way you'll meet and make lasting friends that you can socialize with. Keep trying, and don't give up if your initial attempts seem unsuccessful.
Step 1
Use community events and resources as an excuse to get out and meet new friends, says Moving.com. Most communities offer classes at the recreation center, and neighborhoods often hold parties and mixers. Don't shy away from these opportunities. Go and socialize with others, so that you're able to let them know you're new and happy to meet new people.
Step 2
Introduce yourself, instead of waiting for your new neighbors to come and introduce themselves. Take control over your social life by being proactive. Invite some neighbors over for pizza night, or introduce yourself to a fellow dogwalker. Don't shy away from talking to someone just because he hasn't introduced himself; for all you know, he could be shy as well.
Step 3
Use your children as an excuse to meet other parents and make friends. Whether you're headed to a PTA meeting or chatting to another soccer mom, having children gives you a quick way to connect with other parents. You'll automatically have something in common and have reason to see them frequently.
Step 4
Set up meetings after you've introduced yourself and talked with someone a few times, says Bankrate.com. It can seem daunting to extend an invitation to someone you've only chatted with briefly, but if you ignore the opportunity, they'll always stay an acquaintance and never gain friend status. Offer a cup of coffee or a powerwalk each morning to turn your neighbor into your friend.
Step 5
Try services like Meetup.com. Meetup.com allows people with like interests to create times and places to meet with those that already have something in common. With Meetup groups for things like moms of small children to craft enthusiasts to Dungeons and Dragons players, Meetup groups are open to the public and a good way to establish a group of friends.
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