A toxic relationship is one that has the potential to hurt you in some way, be it emotionally or physically. Those who are in toxic relationships often don't even recognize their relationship as toxic. The same two people get involved in the same repetitive behaviors that leave both partners as the loser. If you've recognized that you are part of a toxic relationship, confronting your partner about it and looking for solutions is the best way to fix it. If the relationship cannot be fixed, it's best to just walk away.
Acknowledgment and Identification
Before you set about trying to fix your toxic relationship, you need to acknowledge first that your relationship is potentially dangerous. Some don't want to face the fact that their relationship could be detrimental. After acknowledging the problem, you need to identify how your relationship is toxic, notes "HealthScope" magazine. Some toxic relationships rely on possessiveness, jealousy, guilt or deprecation to function. Identify why your relationship is toxic so you can set about fixing it.
Communication
Once you've identified how your relationship is toxic, you need to confront your partner about the relationship. He may not even realize just how toxic your relationship is. He may also become angry or deny your conclusions that you are part of a toxic relationship. The important thing is that you make it known, so that you are both aware of the state of the relationship.
Trial Separation
It's a good idea to try a trial separation with your partner so that you both can take some time to think about what you want from the relationship. A trial separation can reveal feelings that you were unsure of and help to solidify your resolve to make the relationship work. Separating for a month can give you better perspective on where your relationship is heading, notes LoveAgainNow.com.
Set Standards
If you've gone through the trial separation and made the decision that you still want to try and work things out, meet with your partner and set clear standards for behavior. If your problem is possessiveness, then talk to your partner about trust. If your partner tries to make you feel guilty, talk about how that makes you feel. If your toxicity stems from physical abuse, let your partner know you will no longer tolerate it. Setting clear standards gives you both the boundaries under which your relationship can continue, according to "Awareness" online magazine.
Zero Tolerance
Adopt a zero tolerance policy when it comes to your relationship. Let your partner know that if the toxicity returns, the relationship ends. Hold yourself to the same standards as you hold your partner, to help foster better behavior and begin better habits within your relationship. Show consistency in your actions, and know that a toxic relationship is a dysfunctional one.
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