Sooner or later, cheating spouses usually provide some clues that they are involved with someone else. Recognizing and identifying these clues is the first step toward taking an honest look at your marriage. Infidelity usually begins first as emotional infidelity and only later progresses to sexual infidelity, according to WomanSavers.com. If you are able to identify infidelity when it is still in the emotional stage, you may be able to stop the affair from progressing and save your marriage.
Change in Affection Level
Any change in affection, either more or less than normal, can indicate cheating. A spouse receiving affection elsewhere may seem less interested in hugging, kissing or holding hands with you. Everything you do may be annoying and asking innocent questions about any aspect of his life may result in an emotional blow-up. If your spouse starts to feel guilty about the affair, you may notice that he is increasingly affectionate or considerate. Sex may also suffer, although in some cases, sexual activity may increase if the spouse is trying to convince you that there is no problem. A sudden interest in new sexual techniques and positions is a strong infidelity warning sign. Chances are that he's learning those new techniques with someone else.
Phone and Computer Habits
When a spouse is having an affair, the telephone and computer are often the primary means of communication. Warning signs include answering phone calls in private, ignoring some calls or receiving frequent text messages. Your spouse may suddenly become obsessed with erasing telephone call logs and may become angry if you even touch her phone. Cheating spouses may also act strangely when using the computer. Warning signs include exiting the screen when you walk into the room, deleting Internet history and emails, signing up for new email accounts and putting passwords on applications and websites that were previously unprotected.
Personal Hygiene
Cheating spouses want to look good for their new romantic partners, which may mean that your previously unfashionable spouse is now very interested in his appearance. He may buy new clothing, new underwear, may change his hairstyle, shower more often or lose weight. He may not smell the same when he returns home in the evening. Using different soap and shampoo at the new person's home can account for the difference or the cologne or perfume that the person wears can rub off on your spouse during physical contact. Your spouse may decide to start doing his own laundry so that he doesn't have to worry about you identifying strange smells or finding hotel or restaurant receipts in his pockets.
Schedule Changes
It's hard to find the time to juggle both a spouse and a new romantic partner. Cheating spouses may no longer have the time or interest to spend with your or the children. Your spouse may start working long hours or disappear for hours at a time with no good excuse. Asking questions about her whereabouts can trigger arguments. One of the surest signs that your spouse is cheating on you is if she fails to disclose information that she once willingly shared with you, according to AskMen.com.
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