Although there's nothing wrong with being a loner, there are times when having somebody to share your life with becomes essential. In an article in Psychology Today, author Irene Levine explains that most friendships are fluid and don't last forever. With that in mind, she emphasizes the importance of meeting new people regularly and being open to starting new friendships. Both friends and acquaintances can help us develop our identities and are essential to our emotional well-being and happiness.
Step 1
Join groups or organizations that focus on your interests. Whether you spend your leisure time biking or reading obscure books, being around people who have something in common with you will make it easier to strike up a conversation and break the ice. You can also use social networking sites to connect with others in your area.
Step 2
Spend more time around groups of people. Take an evening class at a local community college or adult education center, or attend a weekend sports league. You can also try volunteering or even organize your own get-together with people at the office or neighbors.
Step 3
Make small talk. Don't be afraid to start a conversation with someone you don't know, especially if you're around people who share your interests. If others approach you, be open to talking. Even if the chat doesn't go beyond social niceties, it will be valuable practice, and eventually you may end up talking with somebody you connect with. Small talk is relaxing and a simple way to get to know somebody.
Step 4
Pay attention when somebody talks. Don't make the conversation focus solely on yourself; conversely, don't be so quiet that the other person feels like he's talking to a wall. Exchange opinions and share information, but also ask leading questions. A genuine exchange will make clear whether you two share common traits and interests that can lead to eventual friendship.
Step 5
Keep in touch. Relationships are built over time, not after a single meeting. Arrange to meet for coffee or to attend an event or activity together. Maintain contact via email or phone as often as feels natural, but don't pressure or push yourself on the other person. If the other person is interested in pursuing a friendship or relationship, she will reciprocate the invitations and agree to meetings.
Step 6
Be reliable. When you're just getting to know someone, being late, standing him up or canceling meetings will not lead to a lasting relationship. Be honest about the time you can invest in the developing relationship; once you commit yourself to doing something, keep your word unless an emergency arises.
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