Moms have a lot to manage, whether their primary job is parenting or they add additional employment outside or inside the home. Juggling the house, the kids, a job and the millions of details can lead to escalating frustration and anger. Communication between husbands and wives is essential to keep these frustrations from destroying a marriage. Finding balance and a healthy outlet for anger allows mothers to take care of themselves and not pass that anger onto their families.
Damaging Effects
Anger is an innate human emotion that everyone experiences, but chronic anger can have life-threatening effects on the body. Adrenaline is released when anger erupts and its chronic release can impact the strength of arteries, increase cholesterol, increase risk of anxiety and depression, and damage the heart, kidneys and liver.
Too Much To Do
For a mother, just getting out the door can be a huge task, whether it's for work, school, shopping or even a fun event. Babies and toddlers require a plethora of gear and even older children need help gathering coats, hats, water bottles, sports gear and other items. Mothers often feel overwhelmed by the details of trying to manage the needs of everyone in the household. When these issues are not communicated and resolved, debilitating frustration and anger can build.
Unbalanced Load
Parenting.com reports that 46 percent of mothers "get irate with their husbands once a week or more," and much of this is due to the unbalanced load of taking care of the children and the house. While many fathers in today's society are more actively involved than their fathers or grandfathers, many continue to follow traditional roles and expect the home and children to be the responsibility of mothers. Even men who are involved often feel unappreciated or expect recognition for their contribution that they don't necessarily give to their wives.
Open Communcation
Men and women view things differently and communicating needs and concerns is essential to diffusing anger and moving toward solutions. Many couples need help working through these issues, especially if they have allowed the anger to build and smolder. The situation only improves when open and honest communication occurs and continues.
Taking Time to Stop
Many moms just keep going and going like the Energizer Bunny. They forget to give themselves time to stop all the doing. Prioritizing what really needs to be done and scheduling time for themselves every day are ways to begin finding a better balance. Many women feel better when they take a walk, go to the gym, or sit down to read a book. Working together, moms and dad can have time to take care of the house and kids as well as unwind and relax so that everyone is happier.
