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Member Comments
By Shokd on October 23, 2009 at 03:56 PM
Well, this is a new approach!
"Did I try to find a partner today?"
Every smile, kind word, eager look is an attempt to attract. Not so much a forethought- "This smile'll do the trick!"- but just being my/ yourself.
So yes- I can confidently say I've tried today. And the day ain't over yet :)
By Anonymous on October 24, 2009 at 06:46 AM
i agree. just 100% me today.. and we shall see :) cheers.
By nancedance on October 25, 2009 at 02:35 PM
That's a good way to look at it!
By ruthiet_456 on October 26, 2009 at 02:28 PM
Keep it up...
By Anonymous on November 20, 2009 at 10:08 AM
hello there, how are you?
By pretlia on November 20, 2009 at 09:47 AM
I'm Julia, single, 24 year old.I'm romantic, lovable, sweet, passionate, thoughtful, caring and understanding.I love cooking and going outdoors together with my friends. I'm really serious for having relationship so email me or interest me if you're not truly serious for the relationship.(greentulip_18@yahoo.con)
By kittykat29 on November 14, 2009 at 05:38 PM
He loves skinny girls... Why not?? he's skinny too!! But guess what? im not anything near skinny =) He's my friend and my music partner... Is kinda difficult not to think about possibilities and what ifs, when people who knows us says that we compliment each other very well and we have great chemestry, even his mom... But, we are just friends... Yup, that's what we are... He's not gonna change, but i may be skinny one day =)
By LaInfi on November 13, 2009 at 10:22 AM
This is one of those instances where I wished there was a maybe button. I spent 21/2 hours Wednesday night talking to this guy I met at a party on Saturday. I hope things will go well with this guy; we have a lot in common. Either way, this will end in a good friendship
By gloriagattar on November 12, 2009 at 09:09 PM
It's only day two after a final breakup, so it's a little difficult to want to try to find a partner just yet. I need to learn how to find the right partner, who isn't a Project. Who is complete without me and feels I compliment his life.... and he needs to do the same to mine and not complicate my life.
By kittykat29 on November 11, 2009 at 09:59 PM
Im new to this and to the page... Lets see how this work =)God bless u everyone!!
By Anonymous on November 9, 2009 at 01:47 PM
not complete, but darn more close than before.. after meeting and deleting dozen of men in my previous life, i have stumbled or rather been matched with one on eharmony (mind you this is after "closing some 250" matches). he seems to be all that AND a bag of chips.. so time and more time will tell. gonna saddle up and enjoy the journey!
By ruthiet_456 on November 9, 2009 at 02:21 PM
Did you initiate the conversation or did you wait for him to do it?
By Anonymous on November 10, 2009 at 03:40 PM
the beauty of eharmony is they MATCH you.. so it is NOT a meat market sort of dating like match.com or similiar.. after paying and loading pictures and personal questions.. LOTS of them, they seek similiar for you and only match those with a chance. you can STILL delete their suggestions, based on location, looks, responses to your questions, for ANY reason.. BUT all is guided and more secure. i liked it.
By MissVivian20 on November 7, 2009 at 07:45 AM
I try to find a partner daily. I think about the people that I know and what has held us back from becoming partners.
By MissSpark on November 3, 2009 at 06:43 PM
I wish I'd take this dare, but I'm so tired of being let down that I think I need some time off from the dating scene...good luck to everyone else!
By pallatanga on November 3, 2009 at 11:48 AM
Yes, I asked a girl out on date at I met at a Halloween party on Sat night.
By ruthiet_456 on November 3, 2009 at 03:06 PM
Did she say yes?
By Shokd on November 2, 2009 at 08:39 AM
One more time...
No, not yet, but as usual just keepin' on smiling, and frankly not looking too hard. It'll happen when it happens. Till then, not sweating it so much...
By Nicole_ferry on November 1, 2009 at 02:50 PM
Its diffcult to find someone who wants to be in a relationship, especially when life is hectic. it adds to my stress. Thinking...am i not good enough? did i do something wrong? then i think back that the only thing thats important is how they see me on the inside....What do i do to make them to turn their head???
By Shokd on October 30, 2009 at 01:39 PM
Another day of reaching out and saying, "I'm here. How are you?"
By ruthiet_456 on October 30, 2009 at 02:20 PM
I'm doing pretty good. As a woman, how would I know that you're reaching out?
By frutajugosa on October 19, 2009 at 01:23 PM
I have potential partners waiting for me to come home from the Middle East. I just have my gaurd up a little too high. So I should spend time with all of them and figure out what they have to offer...RIGHT?
By Anonymous on October 23, 2009 at 03:25 PM
i have read and reread your post. why keep your guard up? just be yourself but with open eyes?! and who cares WHAT they have to offer, IF you are already completely content with yourself? can you be bought or do you need them to be a whole person, unlikely! pick the man based on the MAN and how well the two of you fit as a couple.
By frutajugosa on October 28, 2009 at 03:53 AM
Here's the thing...I haven't dated in a long time. I am not even sure I am doing this right. You can't even really call it dating. I am getting to know them on a friendship level. The problem is after being divorced for a while I really don't want to commit unless I know for sure that the person is self sufficent. I don't mean what they have to offer monetarily. But what they have to bring to the table. I don't want to babysit or raise a boy into a man. Been there, done that!
By Anonymous on October 27, 2009 at 07:13 PM
nope
By nancedance on October 19, 2009 at 06:46 PM
I do meet men, in "real life" and through online dating, but haven't met any in the past couple of years that I connect with. I am happy in my life. It would be truly great to meet someone to be a part of that. I do wonder though,maybe it's just not going to be the way life turns out for me?
By ruthiet_456 on October 22, 2009 at 03:33 PM
Don't give up nance. The more the merrier. The more men you meet, the more you will know what you want in a man, and the better chances you will have on meeting the perfect one for you. Any dating tips? I just joined eharmony.
By nancedance on October 23, 2009 at 03:28 PM
Ruthie - thanks for the encouragement. You are right.
Dating tips. Here are a few online dating tips from my experience
1. Be honest in the way you present yourself.
2. If someone appeals to you via emails, make sure to talk with him before meeting. Some men are much the same in their email & phone communication and some come across very differently.
3. Don't let anyone push you past your comfort zone. If they are too quick in wanting your phone number, or personal info or a meeting, trust your instincts and don't let yourself be pressured.
4. Expect that meeting in person may change your impressions, even of someone you communicated with extensively before.
5. Most men are no threat to your safety, yet a few are. So take reasonable precautions. IE don't let someone you don't know pick you up at home. And even if he seems really nice, don't take a ride home from a guy you just met.
6. A very few guys online are scamming and out for money or whatever. There are women like that too, by the way. I am sure you wouldn't fall for that but just be alert. I actually had someone try to get me to offer them money to come from out of state to meet me. Right.
7. Plan to pay your own way at the first meeting. Which is what I would consider the first time you get together. Not a date, a chance to meet and talk.
8. Avoid the "job interview" style of talking at the first meeting. Just talk and have fun, just as you would getting to know anyone you had just met.
9. Mostly I would say have fun. As you say, the more you meet the more you learn. Online dating opens up options that include men you wouldn't have otherwise met. And yes you're right, you could meet "the one" this way.
Best of luck!!
By ruthiet_456 on October 26, 2009 at 02:26 PM
Thanks Nance!! When you were dating on line, did you make the first move, or did you wait for the man to do that?
By Shokd on October 26, 2009 at 09:23 AM
Well, it's early yet. At what hour is "finding a partner" appropriate? :)
By aureairis on October 18, 2009 at 04:45 PM
My Partner is my boyfriend and best friend Ryan...
By mzmac on October 16, 2009 at 10:56 PM
No, I didn't try to find a partner today ~ still working on the weight loss piece ~ cannot expect a man to like me if I don't like myself, right?
By KyashiAmara on August 21, 2009 at 02:29 PM
Frustrating when men all play the same games, say the same lies, offer the same empty promises then go MIA... Ugh...
By erbutera on September 1, 2009 at 11:56 AM
very true =(
By Glutronnumberex on September 18, 2009 at 04:45 PM
LOL, I know your just generalizing, but yeah, I watched a large majority of my peers play that game, I always wondered why women wanted men who were so clearly lying just to make her feel good obviously so they could get sex.
I agree, it's a pathetic game, if a man tells you about how rich his family or he is, how in demand he is by everyone, or wont stop telling you how perfect you are constantly, good chance it's the game.
I just tell women I like sex straight up if I'm asked, and the rest is all about finding someone who is for real and makes you happy.
By giorgioooooo on September 22, 2009 at 01:29 PM
Honesty is the best policy...
By demetris69 on September 28, 2009 at 09:43 AM
Okay, let's be honest and say that EVERYONE, men and women, play dumb games when it come to dating & sex. Whether it's because they were taken advantage of previously, they do not know how to trust, they are sexually insecure, or they just want to add numbers to their score board, both sexes play the games those and other reasons. The trick is seeing it then having enough self confidence to walk away no matter how irresistible the good parts (and you know what I mean) are in that player.
By giorgioooooo on October 2, 2009 at 08:16 AM
Let's talk about those games, lies and promises. What's happening Kyashi?
By mzmac on October 16, 2009 at 10:53 PM
The simple and truest answer is, because you let them. From one woman to another, a man (or men) can only do to you what you allow them to do.
Be stronger next time ~