Dare to Start a relationship
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Start a relationship that you feel gives you strength and brings you happiness. Seek out a partner or friend that has similar goals and aspirations so you can grow together and enjoy the relationship for the long-term.
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I've always been codependent on a man. I had the same boyfriend for about 7 years on and off. I was almost never single. I've been single since January and it feels great. I feel like I can overcome my codependency and that I'm ready for a healthy relationship. I'm not actively seeking anyone out because I'm afraid of rejection. The boy I was with for 7 years, we were together since I was 11. I'm afraid of a normal relationship because I've never had one.
I've been the victim of abuse, rape and generally men who are horrible for me.
I thought I met someone a year ago who would be perfect for me, for once I had a great, healthy relationship. However, once he learned about my past relationship history... he left without a trace. I am heartbroken.
But this is a new beginning. I am going to stay away from men who want the wrong things. I know that good men exist out there, and gosh darn it, I'm gonna find one. One that doesn't run when he knows what I've been through.
Good luck!!
That was terrible for him to just vanish bc of what you have been through. Sounds likes going through it was hard enough with out him judging you for it. What a jerk...
i like this guy but my family does not approve of his family they think his parents are coco bananas and let him loose. but he's really not a bad person.
Forget what your family thinks! I wasted a number of years in that, what kind of relaitonship doesnt want you to be happy? Our families are ususlly the ones who think they know what is best for you but are not around for the outcome. do what you think is best
How old are you?
Start by saying hi! How old are you? I feel like dear abbie, talk to them about what interests them, most people will gladly tell you what they like to do.
He-he, I'm dating a guy who was my climbing partner for about 2 months before we started dating. good luck ;)
My fiance broke off the wedding less than 3 months ahead of time. I've been on an emotionally roller coaster since. My goal for the time being is to move on and gain confidence to trust again.
good plan! I had to start over after 16 years of marriage, and it was one of the most enlightening things I ever did! Often people fall out of love, but there is always tomorrow.
I started over 4 months ago after a 10 yr relationship. It was the very best thing that happened. Who knew that was possible lol. Keep your chin up girl!
Normally I'm not a shy person, but when it comes to making new friends or wanting to go hangout with people it feels like I'm asking someone on a date! lol. Like, "Hello, you seem like you would be a nice person to hangout with." To me its kinda creepy to say something to someone guy or girl. Maybe I'm hypersensitive. I just find it hard to make new friends other than people I work with. As far as relationships, I want a guy to spend time with and call up and go grab a bite to eat stuff like that I just don't want the commitment right now. I don't really have the time for a REAL relationship. But how do you tell a guy hey I want you to be around and stuff, but it wont be serious. Just doesn't sound like a very "girl" thing to do. Does that make sense? lol oh well.
Right on! Forget the idea of "creepy" - it is wonderful to express your desires. It is great to have friends to hang out with or grab a bite to eat. Balance that with them wanting to spend time with other friends too. Secure guys will handle this without becoming needy for your attention.
I agree, if you want it to go further, leave the door open. A friend of mine gave me great advise 30 years ago and I have always used it. Let them come to you, dont go to them, and they will not feel pressured. Leave the door open for communication
I seemingly attract people that take from me. It needs to change. I want to find someone that gives me as much as i give them. I thought I did recently, but I was wrong. I decided that I deserve better then what I thought I did in the past. I'm getting so ready for this new thought process and way of sharing a relationship :)
That is how I am too! It's hard being the giver when all that your partner does is take. You do deserve better... good luck!
A good friend of mine told me once that I dont have to save the world. That a relationship should be totally based on you taking care (emotionally, physically, finacially, or anyother way) of someone else. I was challenged to instead of taking care of others, to be taken care of. It was difficult at first because it was not what I was used to, but now, its the way I am all the time.
Obviously she likes books, so talk to her about the twilight series. Look up some stuff on it if you don't know much. Ask her if shes seen the twilight movie, and if she hasn't ask her to go see it with you. See if you guys have a mutual friend and if you do he/she can talk to them about her and find out more about her.
We don't talk much. But, I think she's cute. I really have no clue what to say around. The only thing I've got right now is, Can I borrow your pencil? That's it. I need some other good conversation starters.
If you're genuinly interested in HER, you'd want to find out more about her right? Don't get so wrapped up in the pressure of having to keep a conversation going... just keep in mind you're getting to know someone new!
Do some digging... find out what other classes she has or what her interests are and go from there!
I agree! relationships usually start out of needs, or an interest in the other person. dont seem too needy.
I am a quiet person and usually do not say much so starting a relationship is going to really hard for me. Hopefully taking the dare will motivate me to at least start up a conversation.
I'm so bad at starting new relationships and even worse at seeking them out. After I divorced several years ago, I have never been able to find new relationships of any kind. Several years have passed and now it's come to the point where I'm just comfortable being alone. I do everything alone, everything! I'm scared that I'm just gonna end up like the old lady with 50 cats, and die alone. I have very little family that I dont really keep in touch with and I have grown apart from the few friends I had. To make things worse I'm constanly in a state of change. Either moving from place to place or changing jobs. If I had some consistancy in my life it might be easier for me to maintain relationships. I'm really not even sure where to begin looking for new faces.
I am pretty much of a shy person and I kind of experienced the same thing as you. I am often keep moving around the world and with that I tend to keep on getting away from my friends. But now after I moved to the place I am in now, I realized that I need to do something about my life. I started with doing some activities, learning new stuff. For example: I started rockclimbing, learned fencing, Ballroom and Latin Dancing, and I volunteered for a cause. I don't want to sound corny but You can't imagine how much friends I made from those activities. Being active is how I met my ex. and the girl I am dating now. I do recommend to everyone to become active in any kind of way. 1) it makes you a more interesting person. 2) you meet lots of people.
P.S. I just realized that the post I am commenting on was written two years ago. But hey I just joined.
By Anonymous on July 8, 2009 at 10:53 AM
thsis is annoying.