Dare to Stand on your own and succeed
492 members Daring to Stand on your own and succeed
So many people think they can't do it alone and stay in unhealthy or unhappy relationships. I dare you to take charge of your future and put your life back on track. Even if you end up by yourself you're never alone!
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Yesterday turned out to be a good day! I got 5 'likes' in one day on my fitness page and 1 customer!!! Slow but steady, right?!!! ;)
I've recently become a Beachboday coach where I sell P90X, Insanity, Shakeology, etc through my website. I've had such great results using their products that I really want to help others get fit and healthy.
However, the programs are expensive and people feel they can't afford it even though you pay much more for a gym membership. And with the economy the way it is, people are just afraid to spend money which I can totally understand. I've been a stay-at-home homeschool mom for 14 years now though and I'm really excited to start this journey. It's just been a little frustrating because even though my coaching is free, people are afraid to just start. I think it's a mental block some have.
Anyway, I'm going to stay focused on my new business and pray that the people who do want help will reach out to me. I really DO want to be a part of helping to end this trend of obesity we have in our country! I will stay positive!
Insanity sets in. I have to get off my and start making phone calls at least, to try to get new business. I'm not doing a dang thing to promote my business and then I wonder why I'm so broke. They aren't going to fall out of the sky and into my lap. It's scary. i hate rejection.I hate feeling discouraged. I know sales are about numbers if I make x amount of calls, I'll get a certain percentage of those.
I really do need to learn to stand on my own two feet and do things for myself. I'm lucky enough to have had a lot of privileges and opportunities opened up for me, but I'm honestly afraid that I wouldn't be able to make anything happen for myself on my own. I need to learn to challenge myself and take every single moment in my own hands and make something of it, otherwise I'll continue to be frustrated and take my dissatisfaction and anxiety I've created in my life out in some unhealthy and potentially health-threatening ways. I'm especially afraid because I'm leaving for my first year of college soon and I want to be able to make the absolute most of it and do a lot and enjoy it, but I don't know that I'm confident, responsible, and independent enough to do that. I need to formulate my own ideas, come up with a plan, and stick to them. I just want to gain a little more self-assurance and confidence in my abilities, and I hope start building that up very soon.
Hey everyone,
I really feel like I need to be more confident academically. With everything fitness related I'm very motivated and accept any challenge that comes my way. I love running and strive to do better with each race, I just finished P90X which was a pretty big challenge to say the least, but I really need to apply that motivation to my intelligence and education. I graduated college in 2007, but for my career I really need to go back to school to get my masters. I know in comparison this really isn't that great of a challenge, but for me, finding the motivation is rather hard. I am afraid of going to these classes and not being able to keep up, or failing in any way. I wasn't the smartest in college, but since I know the mistakes I made in college, I will try my best not to make them again in grad school.
Anyway, I thought this group would be very helpful for me, because I am with a girl who I want to marry, and I want to be able to provide the best life for us and our future family.
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Steve,
I'm probably a bit older than you and wished I'd learned 15 years ago what I know now.. but it's truly a blessing to know, regardless! Don't read into your education as much as society suggests you do. Instead, commit more time to personal development. Let me suggest a book that every human being should read. "Think and Grow Rich" by Napoleon Hill. This book should be recommended reading in highschool. Sadly, our culture is still trapped in the industrial age mindset of "employment". Think outside and think big!
The good news is... your attitude is what will propel and sustain you! For most people, there is an internal limitation that prevents them from increasing their worthiness thermostat about themselves and what they deserve. If you continue to make (new) mistakes and correct them along the way and yet enjoy even those moments of failure, you will live the lifestyle most only dream about. I'll leave you with this quote by James Michener:
âThe master in the art of living makes little distinction between his work and his play, his labor and his leisure, his mind and his body, his information and his recreation, his love and his religion. He hardly knows which is which. He simply pursues his vision of excellence at whatever he does, leaving others to decide whether he is working or playing. To him he's always doing both.â
Steve,
I'm probably a bit older than you and wished I'd learned 15 years ago what I know now.. but it's truly a blessing to know, regardless! Don't read into your education as much as society suggests you do. Instead, commit more time to personal development. Let me suggest a book that every human being should read. "Think and Grow Rich" by Napoleon Hill. This book should be recommended reading in highschool. Sadly, our culture is still trapped in the industrial age mindset of "employment". Think outside and think big!
The good news is... your attitude is what will propel and sustain you! For most people, there is an internal limitation that prevents them from increasing their worthiness thermostat about themselves and what they deserve. If you continue to make (new) mistakes and correct them along the way and yet enjoy even those moments of failure, you will live the lifestyle most only dream about. I'll leave you with this quote by James Michener:
âThe master in the art of living makes little distinction between his work and his play, his labor and his leisure, his mind and his body, his information and his recreation, his love and his religion. He hardly knows which is which. He simply pursues his vision of excellence at whatever he does, leaving others to decide whether he is working or playing. To him he's always doing both.â
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With all things being global in the world today. I suggest you follow you dreams so that you will be able to provide the best life for the two of you and your future family.You must do all that is humanly possible to continue to aim high.Most important do not look back press forward.
With all things being global in the world today. I suggest you follow you dreams so that you will be able to provide the best life for the two of you and your future family.You must do all that is humanly possible to continue to aim high.Most important do not look back press forward.
With all things being global in the world today. I suggest you follow you dreams so that you will be able to provide the best life for the two of you and your future family.You must do all that is humanly possible to continue to aim high.Most important do not look back press forward.
Did you take a step forward? You can do it!
Did you take a step forward? You can do it!
Did you take a step forward? You can do it!
Did you take a step forward? You can do it!
I feel you on this! I am almost finished with my bachelors (and plan to continue with my education after this), and although I've passed every class just fine, I still feel doom when I look ahead. College is scary and unrealistic in its demands (at least where I'm going this is the case).
You just gotta remember that its hard for everyone. Learning is an awkward process, and you are going to mess up and just be dead wrong sometimes. This is perfectly alright--you wouldn't be there if you knew everything already. Set reasonable goals for yourself, make an honest effort, and be proud of what you acheive. Even if you have to take a class 5 times (which is unlikely, but still), as long as you pass, you will get that paper that you want!
I feel you on this! I am almost finished with my bachelors (and plan to continue with my education after this), and although I've passed every class just fine, I still feel doom when I look ahead. College is scary and unrealistic in its demands (at least where I'm going this is the case).
You just gotta remember that its hard for everyone. Learning is an awkward process, and you are going to mess up and just be dead wrong sometimes. This is perfectly alright--you wouldn't be there if you knew everything already. Set reasonable goals for yourself, make an honest effort, and be proud of what you acheive. Even if you have to take a class 5 times (which is unlikely, but still), as long as you pass, you will get that paper that you want!
HI THERE STEVEO54, LET ME TELL YOU SOMETHNG. WHEN YOU ENROL ON THAT COURSE YOU WILL FIND SO MANY OTHERS WHO HAVE THE SAME DIALOGUE THAT YOU HARE HAVING WITH YOURSELF.SO MANY OF THEM ARE TERRIFIED BUT KNOW THAT THEY MUST DO IT IF THEY WANT TO ACHIEVE THE GOAL THEY WANT.WHEN YOU GET THER YOU WILL FIND PEOPLE FLUNKING COURSES REPATING OTHERS AND SUCCEEDING IN SOME. EVEN THE BRIGHTEST OF THEM FAIL SOME MODULES BEFORE PASSING THEM.
PLEASE JUST TAKE A DEEP BREATH AND GO. YOU WILL MEET SO MANY WHO HAVE THAT SAME FEAR BUT THEY TOOK THE PLUNGE.
when I was 16 I broke my neck, my dad took care of me and my bills until I lost him to cancer 2yrs ago. My brother and his gf lived with me to help with daily stuff like meals, appointments and rent but the gf got rude so I told them to move out. so I am 24 I use a wheelchair and depend of my care aides for alot of help but Im going to really try to make it on my own, I plan to move to the city, go back to school and start a fundraiser for my rehabilitation/exercise equiptment so I can be as independant,strong and healthy as I can. Im scared but wish me luck.
CHRISTINA- I know u can do this! I think your plan to move to the city, go back to school and follow your dream is brilliant! It is scarey s im sure but push through the fear and do it one bit at a time. Good that you put in a boundary with the GF,,, what a pain in the *@* huh- as if you didnt have enough to be dealing with huh! Good luck with everything- your future is BRIGHT AND BEAUTIFUL- do what you need to do to follow those dreams and let nothing stop you! CYBER HUGS TO YOU;)
Christina,
Of course, you're scared. Who isn't? Anyone who steps out into the unknown, or out of their comfort zone, has to swallow back their fear and then they feel fine. Move through it, you can do it! All the best to you!!
Christina,
Of course, you're scared. Who isn't? Anyone who steps out into the unknown, or out of their comfort zone, has to swallow back their fear and then they feel fine. Move through it, you can do it! All the best to you!!
Christina,
Of course, you're scared. Who isn't? Anyone who steps out into the unknown, or out of their comfort zone, has to swallow back their fear and then they feel fine. Move through it, you can do it! All the best to you!!
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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H8ZuKF3dxCY. Please go to this link. My words to describe the inspiration that you will get from this and the hope of what your future can really be are pale in comparison to how this man lives his life and encourages others. It does leave you speechless. Enjoy and share your thoughts after viewing. Much love to you and good luck. Can't wait to see what you do with your life. Your spirit will take you through any challenge you might have to face.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H8ZuKF3dxCY. Please go to this link. My words to describe the inspiration that you will get from this and the hope of what your future can really be are pale in comparison to how this man lives his life and encourages others. It does leave you speechless. Enjoy and share your thoughts after viewing. Much love to you and good luck. Can't wait to see what you do with your life. Your spirit will take you through any challenge you might have to face.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H8ZuKF3dxCY. Please go to this link. My words to describe the inspiration that you will get from this and the hope of what your future can really be are pale in comparison to how this man lives his life and encourages others. It does leave you speechless. Enjoy and share your thoughts after viewing. Much love to you and good luck. Can't wait to see what you do with your life. Your spirit will take you through any challenge you might have to face.
How is the plan going Christina? Hope all is well!
Watched http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H8ZuKF3dxCY on YouTube.Thank you for recommending it. It's great!
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is not near done but its a start.
Thanks for the support.
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is not near done but its a start.
Thanks for the support.
I envy you. You are 24 and have your whole life ahead of you. Know I am behind you all the way and you will achieve all that you want out of life. I am certain because you are reaching out and standing tall. I am 52 hoping to do what you are embarking on now. I hope I can be as strong as you.
Christina I envy you. You are 24 and have your whole life ahead of you. Know I am behind you all the way and you will achieve all that you want out of life. I am certain because you are reaching out and standing tall. I am 52 hoping to do what you are embarking on now. I hope I can be as strong as you.
you give me much inspiration!!! God Bless you
you give me much inspiration!!! God Bless you
You have got this Chistina. You can do it- follow your heart and dream and may blessings abound on your journey. Cyber hugs!!!!!Keep us posted.
You have got this Christina. You can do it- follow your heart and dream and may blessings abound on your journey. Cyber hugs!!!!!Keep us posted.
How are you getting on Christina- hoped all is going well.
hey christina- how is the plan unfolding?Hope all is well.
We are all supporting you
We are all supporting you
We are all supporting you
I am not exactly alone. Been married 25 years this week, in fact.
But I am in the process of reinventing and rediscovering myself.
I have several chronic conditions and am on disability. I now have the opportunity for up to two years of (Canadian) college for retraining. I don't want to mess up.
I do not have a long work history, due to childrearing, and what little I have is now in a different context because I'm older now, and deal with health issues which leave me with low-stress tolerance and fatigue issues. I am driven to be able to provide for myself and my disabled son should anything happen to dh, who is not in the best of health himself.
I lost 50 lbs after surgery (hip replacement) 2.5 years ago, but have regained some. Now that I'm on thyroid meds I'm hoping that weight will come off again.
I have strong language skills. I like to write, research, teach (although presently I am not always so good with people), edit, analyse. I have background as a pharmacy technician (too much on-foot time and stress to re-enter that...not to mention the disastrous possiblities from attentionn lapses)but medical terminology is not a problem for me.
So I'm looking for something to study and work at...ring any bells with anyone? What have others done in my situation? At home study seems sensible to me but I'm open to ideas
I saw this dare and thought, "this is exactly what I could use!" I'm not in a bad relationship and I had already decided to get healthy 6 months ago. 25 lbs lighter, happier, and more focused, I am ready for more.
I have struggled with my "plan" for so long. Which school do I go to, should I move, where do I move, what should I pursue for a career? All really great questions but I felt paralyzed with all the "but how" questions that came with each possibility. I think I have been afraid to trust that I know best for me at this point in my life.
Sorry, this is long...I am almost done I promise.
So starting today, I am taking the dare to stand on my own and succeed.For the next year I will come up with the best plan to take that jump I am so ready for.
Hi, welcome! How to tackle the really big questions? Deciding on a career path is one of the biggest choices you will ever make. However, in choosing a school, you simply make a list of all the pros and cons. Everything falls into place as soon as you decide on your primary educational goal. It's almost like building a house, once you find your lot, the actual decision of what kind of house to build, what sort of cupboards to put in the kitchen, or what color the paint the walls, will all fall into place, as it comes from a continual asking of "what is next?" Just follow your heart and imagine yourself enjoying your workday. Everything else is just a process. Glad you stopped by! All the best in making your decision.
A great deal of stress is created by thinking you have to have everything figured out before you begin. You don't. As the Chinese proveb says, "A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step." Remember, people don't typically do everything at once- they begin to head themselves in the right direction. For example, as far as school goes, look around at the choices that are easily available to you. Visit the schools- especially the Career Counseling Center. Frequently, they have classes and workshops to help you get clarity on what you might like to do in the future. While you work on getting that figured out, you can start taking general education classes. These are typically required for any degree, so it won't be a waste your time and money to take them. Often, it is by taking just these classes that students begin to identify their career choices because they discover fields and professions they never even knew existed. As you explore everything life has to offer, enjoy yourself and focus on forward movement, one step at a time. You'll get there and you'll enjoy the journey along the way. And that's what it is all about, right?
A great deal of stress is created by thinking you have to have everything figured out before you begin. You don't. As the Chinese proveb says, "A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step." Remember, people don't typically do everything at once- they begin to head themselves in the right direction. For example, as far as school goes, look around at the choices that are easily available to you. Visit the schools- especially the Career Counseling Center. Frequently, they have classes and workshops to help you get clarity on what you might like to do in the future. While you work on getting that figured out, you can start taking general education classes. These are typically required for any degree, so it won't be a waste your time and money to take them. Often, it is by taking just these classes that students begin to identify their career choices because they discover fields and professions they never even knew existed. As you explore everything life has to offer, enjoy yourself and focus on forward movement, one step at a time. You'll get there and you'll enjoy the journey along the way. And that's what it is all about, right?
A great deal of stress is created by thinking you have to have everything figured out before you begin. You don't. As the Chinese proveb says, "A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step." Remember, people don't typically do everything at once- they begin to head themselves in the right direction. For example, as far as school goes, look around at the choices that are easily available to you. Visit the schools- especially the Career Counseling Center. Frequently, they have classes and workshops to help you get clarity on what you might like to do in the future. While you work on getting that figured out, you can start taking general education classes. These are typically required for any degree, so it won't be a waste your time and money to take them. Often, it is by taking just these classes that students begin to identify their career choices because they discover fields and professions they never even knew existed. As you explore everything life has to offer, enjoy yourself and focus on forward movement, one step at a time. You'll get there and you'll enjoy the journey along the way. And that's what it is all about, right?
I've added a new Dare to my repertoire: Plan and Schedule healthy meals in advance. It feels a little bit as if I signed up to run a marathon next week, at least mentally speaking. But -- it's a step in the right direction.
Why not invite the clock into my life and elevate it to the level of constant companion, one who will overrule my thoughts of not being in the right mood, of being much too busy to notice, or of being far too tired to enjoy the luxury and new found pleasure of routine and profound serendipity, all rolled up in one?
A silent partner with an iron fist, but for the tick-tock that will permeate the air, which I will endeavour to interpret as a curious show of affection and contentment; the equivalent of purring perhaps.
@Inspired99 You made me smile! Wow. I'm so glad you found us here. Welcome!
I think you're right: it is just about time for a progress report. That - in itself - is an interesting exercise. How do you qualify outcomes, which do not quite meet the desired expectations, but which, nonetheless, are a good step in the right direction? Probably as items that would benefit from a different approach that would employ a smaller scale and shorter reach.
So, in short, I have been doing well, some days even very well, but not consistently. I have been writing, but not enough, and I have exposed myself to time management tips, but have not been able to find the consistency that I had hope for.
I hope that the discipline of eating within calorie range and losing weight consistently, which I am now learning, and to which I am showing less and less resistance, will be a transferable skill, that would help with writing and sticking to a daily routine to do so.
Weight loss is going well. Have managed to fit into clothes that I haven't worn for many a moon.
Since all my time is virtually my own, right now that is, I am working on a schedule that will keep me focussed. I see that this webpage -- I'm new -- has tremendous resources and I am going to study time management today.
Hi RunAlongBeach!!
I admire your posts of encouragement to so many and your own words of realization and support to yourself! Cheers to you!
I just joined this site myself as a result of a web page thread leading to another as I was researching TESOL and TEFL certification and then "stumbled-in" to this site---saw the various topics and a some sincere searchers where I was compelled to lend an encouraging and hopefully helpful word or two.
Support and encouragement are two of the greatest gifts that one person can give another. Especially today where there are so many challenges.
I am also recreating and Re-Creating my life. Wanna check that again? I am "REC-reating" and "Re-Create-ing". Not an easy task considering my challenges. But, many of us have the very same challenges--- job (or absence of job), physical issues/concerns, stress, etc...
I am there with you regarding the writing. That has been one of my dreams over the years. Well, I am writing now. This forum is one of the many seeds and may we all find fertile ground into which we plant our seeds of hopes, desires, and dreams in our fields of goals. May the rains of friendship, advice and direction water these fields. And, may we all reap successes that we may share with others at our tables of plenty!
So, Thank YOU, Run Along Beach!! for inspiring me to restart my blog about mid 40 something single white female traveling to foreign country to investigate the possibilities of a Cafe for ex-pats and locals alike where the sounds of Tango music can be heard and the aroma of fresh French Baguettes fill the senses, and ladies wear my various designs of jewelry and clothing...
Yes, it can be done on our own... but all things are more successful and more satisfying (in my book ) when they are shared.
Let me know how your writing and scheduling goes... looking forward to your stories.
I never realized how much time I have spent trying to make other people happy, being the good hostess, going out of my way to do nice things for others. Don't get me wrong, I enjoy doing all of those things for people. But somehow I never realized that I was never focused on what I needed. I also never thought I could be alone. I used to go out five times a week to avoid being home alone. No more. Now I becoming more comfortable just doing stuff for me. I even went to the movies by myself for the first time.
I like your post & can relate. How are things going?
I haven't stuck with anything I planned to do for myself in a long time besides straightening my credit which is good. I always feel like I need motivation but this year at the old age of 24 *I say old because I had expected to have so much accomplished before I turn 25 and there's only a month left* I realize I have to do it without or with motivation. There's no driving force in my life so I'm going to be it. In the summer I'm going back to college and I'll actually stick with it. I won't let my vision or fear of what others think get in my way. I'm going to work hard with my little business and try to establish it until I'm done with school. I'm going to try and really decide if getting married is the best choice and stick to goals that I set or stop spending time setting goals and more time doing things to assist me in reaching them. I hope I can do this even if I have to do it alone.
Welcome! I am glad you stopped by!! You know, age is only a state of mind, at least that is what someone told me the other day. Biologically, you can reverse the clock by living clean, and mentally you can simply be as old as you feel. I hope you will find some comfort in that like I did. Also, you are planning to make some awesome moves by going back to school, being positive about yourself, and by the sounds of it, just being your own best friend. That is not a bad place to be in when you are reinventing yourself. Have faith that you can do whatever you set out to accomplish and you will!
Under Resources is a link to Brian Tracy, who is a motivational speaker. His site is primarily geared to sell books, CD's and tickets to attend functions, but his Daily Quotes and newsletters contain a lot of positive thought that can inspire and best of all: these are completely free. I've subscribed to nearly all of them and am enjoying the positive input very much. There is also a free eBook that you can download, which is all about goal setting. I have no personal interest in promoting this speaker, but I just thought to pass the good vibes on to someone. Some principles he talks about, such as who you are refer to self esteem and might help to shed the pounds for good.
Im 45 and I had to restart my life. Nov. 2009 I got laid off (first time ever) My back is bad so I decided to restructure my work (its always very physical)I cant do that anymore not good for me. I have always wanted to go into the medical field, I started school, Im 6 weeks in at Medical billing and coding. I love it and Im very excited!
Wonderful that you have found something that you like to do and something that is not as taxing on the body at the same time. All the best in your studies and being a mom at the same time! A lot of work, but you can do it!
im going back to school finaly, i will try hard this time couse i need to make a change in my life.
Congratulations! That is a BIG STEP! How are classes? Make sure you get enough sleep, especially during Exams. You can do it! Go get em!
By cobaltcatwoman on February 5, 2012 at 01:29 PM
Right now that means #1 Bringing all my bills up to date; (A) Write them all down (B) Collect alloutstandig money owed to me #2 Repaying my friends the money they loaned me #3 Getting Health Insurance for myself and Dylan #4 Starting a Saving Program for Travel - Start a Savings for each of my Kids - Start a Savings for each of my Grandkids - Savings for the Investment in my marketing of Cobalt "Seed Money".
I dare myself to write everything I owe down and to commit to a specific plan to bring it up to speed. Glenda Kennedy 2/5/2012