Relationships and Family
Resolving Conflicts with Friends
When faced with an aggressive person, your instinct may be to turn and run, but unfortunately that's not always the right thing to do. By familiarizing yourself with some simple techniques for defusing aggressive behavior, you can help yourself and others avoid conflict and violence. These techniques are useful whether you are dealing with aggression at home, in the workplace, or in a public place.
Recovering a broken friendship not only helps to heal your hurt, but it can also improve your quality of life. A study conducted by the University of California, Los Angeles, reports that for women, sharing close friendships may reduce stress and allow you to live a happier and healthier life. Male or female, genuine friends are always present to share both your joy and hardships. By reconciling a friendship, you’re showing a willingness to ask for forgiveness and a desire to once again be present for all the joys and hardships of life.
For many people, friends are more like family: they're there through all of life's ups and downs. This can make losing a close friend as devastating as breaking up with a long-term partner. Sometimes friends simply grow apart and find they have little in common anymore. Unfortunately, a friendship may also end due to a disagreement or betrayal. Getting over a broken friendship takes time and patience, and may require facing up to some difficult truths about yourself and your behavior.
You haven’t spoken to your best friend in months. Maybe you got a new boyfriend she didn’t like, or maybe you found separate hobbies. If your heart feels chopped in half by the split, you may want to win your best friend back. However, not all friendships are meant to last forever. If you think yours truly is, prepare yourself to take a plunge as your old friend may or may not feel the same way.
Friends are friends forever -- or until one of them becomes more successful than the other. People are sometimes drawn to each other by the things they have in common, and this is especially true in friendships. But when one friend starts having more than the other -- whether it's more money, job prestige or even more romance -- jealousy can rear its ugly head. You might not be able to stop being jealous entirely, but if you want to keep your friendship, you have to learn how to cope with your jealousy.
Rules may be made to be broken, but not when it comes to friendships. The rules of friendship, if broken, can destroy trust and tear relationships apart. If you want to restore your friendship, you have to mend what was broken, and that isn't always easy -- but with time, sacrifice and effort, it is usually possible.
Most of the serious conflicts in your life probably involve people you are closely connected to, such as your friends and family, your romantic partners and the people you work with. If a conflict isn't resolved or is allowed to escalate too far, it can damage the relationship. If you can handle the conflict successfully, you can make your relationship with the other person stronger and more resilient by improving your understanding of each other.
Human beings are messy creatures. Thus, it's not surprising that a relationship between two people — whether it's a romantic, platonic or family relationship — can also get messy. When one of your relationships starts to break and fall apart with no hope of reconciliation, it's crucial that you try to find closure. Closure gives you a chance to heal from any wounds the relationship has caused. It also makes room in your heart, mind and life to move on and embrace new opportunities, new chances and new loves as they arise.
Deception by others can leave you feeling unsteady and confused. If you think that someone may be deceiving you, you might want to confront that person to obtain a confession, to let him know that you are aware of the lies, or to prevent future lying behavior, according to executive coach Carol Kinsey Goman, in the Forbes article, "How to Deal With Liars at Work." Robert Feldman, author and professor of psychology at the University of Massachusetts Amherst agrees, stating on his website that when you ignore a lie, in a sense, you become a liar yourself.
Handling conflict is an important aspect of maintaining and developing relationships. Understanding how introverts handle conflict is helpful because an introvert is more likely than an extrovert to withdraw or avoid conflict, according to a study done by E. Michael Nussbaum at the University of Nevada. This withdrawal or avoidance can sometimes create a challenge for both parties in regards to handling conflict within a relationship.