Having a miscarriage can be devastating to parents. Learn how to cope with having a miscarriage from a licensed professional psychotherapist in this video.
Be honest
Discuss
Maintain hope
Seek professional help
Dr. Coral Arvon is a licensed clinical psychotherapist with Arvon & Associates Counseling in Aventura, Florida.
DR. CORAL ARVON: Hi. My name is Dr. Coral Arvon. I'm a licensed clinical psychotherapist with Arvon & Associates and counseling in Aventura, Florida. This is the beginner's guide to coping with a miscarriage. This is a very sad time for a parent. You were expecting this baby, you get so excited. Your emotions are high and all of a sudden you find out you get that call, the baby's gone. There's no baby. It's a loss and we need to deal like it is a loss. We might go into the state denial that this couldn't be happening and then we get angry, "Why me?" "I've waited so long!" We also might fight more with our spouse. We might blame them. "It's your fault! You caused me too much stress." It's very difficult time for a couple. It's important to teel each other that it's okay. Allow for this time to be quiet, spend more time together, and know that you can try again. Many couples have experienced miscarriages. Although this might be a small comfort, it is one. You can join support groups for this too. There are always groups. There are always people to talk to. Talk to your physician. He might know somebody else that you can speak to now. But there is hope and you can have another baby. This is a very difficult time and you probably already have the baby's room all picked out in your mind. Husbands as well, they were excited, the new baby coming in to the home. Husbands also can be very depressed. They might blame you. They might feel guilty. You might blame them. You might even hate each other for a moment because of all the excitement, the whirlwind. You are so ready for this new baby, but its okay. There is help and you can have another child soon. Five points to remember about coping with the miscarriage: One is be honest with yourself. Two, discuss it with your husband. Three, plan on doing other things, keeping busy, professional help, and five, realize there is hope. It's happened to others and you can have another baby too.
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