Beginner's Guide to Getting Over a Break Up

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DR. CORAL ARVON: Hi, my name is Dr. Coral Arvon. I'm a licensed clinical psychotherapist with Arvon & Associates in Counseling in Aventura, Florida. This is the beginner's guide to getting over a breakup. The first thing that we usually go through is denial. Is this really happening to me? And then of course, we're angry. Why is this happening to me? There is some grief and there is some disappointment, sometimes more than disappointment. We have to be careful not to self-blame and feel guilty. What did I do to cause this? Sometimes it has nothing to do with us; it's with the other person. That's where our thoughts can get in the way. Sometimes there's jealousy. There might be another person in the other person's life, and sometimes there's confusion. Will I ever feel better? Will I ever see anybody else? Will anybody ever want me? How am I going to do all these by myself? It seems overwhelming sometimes just starting life over. Sometimes we need to make some life changes. We might need to go on a short vacation or start up a new hobby or join a group and do other kinds of things. Allow yourself to relax, breathe, experience life. Read self-meditating books or self-help books. Find new things to do. Open your eyes to new possibilities. This is not over. There are always new people and new things. If you need a support group, you can join a support group. If you really find yourself getting depressed and having a difficult time, seek professional counseling. They can help you get through this process a lot more quickly than you could do on your own. Breaking up is a hard thing to do but it's not the end and you can do it. The five points to remember about getting over a breakup are: You are going to feel denial. You might feel guilty and blame. You're definitely going to feel anger. Jealousy and confusion is there for sure. And five, will I ever have a healthy relationship again? And you will.