Losing a parent, no matter your age, can be heartbreaking, traumatizing and overwhelming. Everyone deals with the loss of a loved one differently and experiences different emotions. At one moment a person who has lost a parent might be angry and irritable, and the next moment be sobbing and sad. It’s normal to experience symptoms of depression directly after a loss; however, if it lingers and begins to affect a person socially and occupationally, the person might be suffering from depression.
An adult who loses a parent may need to take a couple weeks off of work, and children may need to take a couple weeks off of school to deal with the emotions. However, if the person incapable of returning to work or finishing work-related projects on time, he might be suffering from depression. If a child refuses to go to school and has a significant drop in her grades, she might be depressed.
Depression affects adults and children socially. Many times, someone suffering from depression will isolate himself, not return phone calls from friends and family members and be too exhausted to maintain healthy relationships. If someone loses a parent, he might put other relationships on hold for a couple weeks, and that’s normal. However, if after a month, he still doesn’t attempt to spend time with friends and family, he could be suffering from depression.
Children and adults display sadness, irritability and anger when depressed. All of these feelings are normal for someone to experience after losing a loved one. If overwhelming feelings of sadness or irritability remain after a few weeks, seeking therapy might be a good option. Each person takes different amounts of time to recover after a significant loss, and it’s not uncommon to become depressed after losing a parent. However, if you suffer from depression because of loss, you should take the same steps that you would take if you were depressed because of another issue. Talk to a therapist or your doctor.
Issues Eating and Sleeping
People suffering from depression have problems sleeping. They might not be able to fall asleep or stay asleep after they’ve fallen asleep. They might sleep too much and refuse to get out of bed. People who are depressed also gain or lose significant amounts of weight because of undereating or overeating. Again, it’s normal to have these issues for a few weeks after the loss of a loved one. But if these issues persist more than a few weeks and impact a person’s relationship and career, depression could be the cause.
Some people who are depressed feel hopeless and have thoughts of suicide. This is the most dangerous symptom of depression. If someone has thoughts of suicide, she should immediately seek the help of a licensed mental health professional, call 911 or go to her local psychiatric emergency room. Even after a loss of a loved one, suicidal thoughts should be taken seriously and dealt with immediately.