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Hey everyone, I am thinking about quitting drinking...but I'm scared. I'm 27 and I think I have known for about 5 years that I'm an alcoholic. It runs in my family, and I told myself that I would never go down that road. But I don't think I ever had a choice. I just quit smoking about a month ago, I didn't think I could do that either. But now I know u can do anything I put my mind too. I know that something has to change in my life. My relationship is suffering, I have anxiety, depression, and feelings of guilt and hopelessness. I know that this is all connected to my alcohol consumption.

Does anyone have any tips or advice for me?

    • You can do this!!! I quit smoking a month ago as well. I also stopped drinking 3 years ago in December. It is scary at first but let me tell you there is such freedom in it. If you need any tips or advice give a shout on the pm. I am 28 so I get the age thing too. Good luck

    • Good luck take it one day at a time ,stay focused and hang with people on your level,you can do it just have to be strong smile

    • My experience has been that if people think they are then ... they probably are.

      It took me along time to realize the the first word in the Big Book is "WE." That alone explains a lot about why the program work. The steps are magic and the people in the room support them.

      Good luck

    • I would suggest going to an AA meeting. You can look them up for yours, or any, area here

    • It's your life! Look into how much damage drinking is causing to your relationships, your body,etc... It could be time to stop, or at least seriously re-evaluate. Getting help from a doctor, mental health/behavior specialist, AA, or another resource is advised. Alcohol can be tricky if you drink on a regular basis. Sometimes it will take a medical supervisor to help you wean off. Unlike with quitting smoking, very serious alcoholics can go through DT's. There are other things you might expect that you and your doc can talk about. I have been really into this Harm Reduction Radio podcast... It's free. Just like with smoking, make a plan, stick to it, and try to get as much help as you can to support you!

    • I'm only a few years older than you, but I have friends in their 40's and 50's who still drink like they are 21. It's sad to watch those lives slip by. How you deal with it now can affect your whole future!

    • The first step you've already taken now do it one day at a time and surround itself with sooner people will make your journey allot smoother good luck and god be with you

    • Hi there. As with any change from what's not working to what you want to be instead, is to know your enemy, it's you. "Nervous" may be "fear". What you believe to be stronger than yourself is why you chose to numb yourself by over drinking. To undo a habit we have to work on figuring out why we invited it in. Simple. The hard part is staying focused on your true self, who you are, not what you've allowed yourself to become, and work backward. This one action frees you from "fear". Live inside of goal, live courageous and clear instead of fearful and muddled.

    • This is a personal opinion, and anecdotal evidence, so members; please don't be too hard on me. It's my birthday. I am a 48 year old alcoholic, I've made it through a year of sobriety, two times. Both of these times I was on antibuse. I have tried AA meetings, but being secular made it a tough path for me. I also notice that many are willing to pour the equivalent to gasoline down their throats on a daily basis, but are afraid to take antibuse. One thing about it. If I take the pill, it takes away the problem. I am on another run of sobriety, I take my medicine every other day and never consider drinking. What a better life. I know many feel that taking away the alcohol still leaves the ism....I know all the quotes by heart, but for me taking away the alcohol takes away the hangover. I believe, personally,, that the main reason people are against taking antibuse is that it takes away your out if you KNOW you need a drink. It is a hard step, but for me it is the only chance I have. Best wishes for you.

    • I have a daughter who nearly lost her life to drugs & alcohol a number of times. AA does not work. They have a 2% success rate. Drugs and alcohol are only the band-aids to cover up your emotional and psychological problems. A bunch of other alcoholics aren't going to solve those problems. People need the emotional problems fixed, as with eating or any addiction, but alcohol and drugs cause physical changes that require medical help as well. The ONLY way to achieve success is to enter YOURSELF into a LONG TERM program. It takes years of isolation from and concentrated retooling of how to deal with the underlying psychological problems that are causing you to drink. My daughter is at a place called Habilitat, She is 35 years old and has a master's degree in education. This is not a place that fools around. They are serious. You have to be ready. If you can't afford it, you can get financial aid. If they can't help you, they can direct you where to get help. Call them at: (80glasses 235-3691.

    • Hey Jess !!!

      Don't be that beautiful, positive loving and trusting young woman that you are and the answers will come to you..

      Glad to see you're still growing and smoke free !! I am sure you'll tackle this next challenge in your life..You're a success, plain and simple.

    • Go to AA meetings. It's a really good fellowship and they welcome everybody with open arms. Do what they tell you should do to help stay sober and most importantly having more fun being sober than getting drunk. It has saved many people's lives and if you work the program and really believe in it, it will help change your life, not just to quit drinking.

    • Hi, congratulations on recognizing that you have a problem. I know a little bit about recovery from alcoholism. I got sober when I was 26 which was a long time ago but I still remember how hard it is to be young and alcoholic.

      I can only offer the solution that worked for me. I joined AA. If the whole god thing scares you let me tell you that I was an atheist when I got sober. I did eventually develop my own concept of a god but it is not a supernatural god it is more along the lines of good orderly direction. Anyway, do not let the whole god thing scare you because the only requirement for membership is the desire to stop drinking.

    • The Promises of AA:

      We are going to know a new freedom and a new happiness. We will not regret the past nor wish to shut the door on it. We will comprehend the word serenity and we will know peace. No matter how far down the scale we have gone, we will see how our experience can benefit others. That feeling of uselessness and self-pity will disappear. We will lose interest in selfish things and gain interest in our fellows. Self-seeking will slip away. Our whole attitude and outlook on life will change. Fear of people and of economic insecurity will leave us. We will intuitively know how to handle situations that used to baffle us. We will suddenly realize that God is doing for us what we could not do for ourselves.

      That is from the Big Book pages 83-84.

    • It works, it really does!

    • Every time you want to drink think of all the reasons why you shouldn't and do something else during that time such as watching a funny video

    • Start reading about the effects of alcohol physiologically. Read about what it does to your brain, liver, pancreas, etc.... Alcohol dementia. If you smoke then read about that also. Do this everyday. Do it when you are most likely to want that drink. Read about this stuff while you're having a drink. Read about all the things alcohol does to our body and brain. Follow Kevin O'Hare. Google his name or search on YouTube. No this, if you are a true alcoholic then be cautious about how you quit due to the severity of withdraw. Get help. smile

    • People will probably criticize me for this advice, but ... I worked with my primary care physician re: heavy drinking. Though I do not have a physical dependency on alcohol, I tend to be a heavy stress drinker. She put me on Naltrexone, a front line treatment for alcoholism in Europe. FDA approved in US for this purpose, as well as opioid addiction. I'm three weeks in and it's really working. Cravings are minimal. It's like Chantix for smoking. I am able to have a few drinks a week and i don't lose control. One drink can last all evening, and sometimes I don't even finish it. Some days I don't drink at all. Aaaaand, it also works as an appetite suppressant, promotes weight loss, and is marketed in the US for that purpose under another (patent) name. It's a well tolerated drug without adverse drug interactions, and for me, no side effects. Talk to your doctor. It's just an amazing help while my brain rewires/reorients itself toward reasonable, healthy drinking and eating habits. I can't understand why this drug is such a secret here in this country.

    • When I got sober 8 yrs ago, The only thing that helped me was I was doing it for me and me alone. I understood it involved other people, but unless it was only me I was doing it for, it would have never worked for me. I never did have cravings after that for a long while. If I did have a craving I did not want to mess up the amount of sober time I did have under my belt. I did relapse for a couple of months, but again got sober for me. You have to do it for you, and you alone. Yes you probably have family and friends that are involved, but you need to do it for you and you only

    • Jbowe3 I can't tell you how to quit. But I can tell you it's been 2 years since I've had a drink and I feel like a different person. I'm back to the person I was a very long time ago. It's not good when it gets to where you're at. I know how it feels. So tough because it's everywhere. But it will be fun, drinking soda water with a lime, too. Trust me. Take that first step and never look back. In two years, like me, you'll be glad you got your life back. The booze will seem very insignificant. Cheers!! smile