Give yourself some space.
To begin the process of moving forward, it’s important to clean the slate, so to speak, by taking a break from the person who cheated. Of course, if you’re living together, married or have children together, this can be more difficult. But you do need some space to process your feelings about the situation without contact with them, even just a day or two, says Anna Gonowon, a breakup coach from ExBoyfriendRecovery.com.
“For example, people should not text, email, call, Facebook or message the person who cheated,” she says. This also includes not communicating with the cheating partner's friends or family or the other woman or man, she adds. If you choose to break up, Gonowon suggests no communication with your ex for 45 days, since it can take anywhere from 21 to 66 days to form and break a habit, making her recommendation an average of the two.