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5 Signs That Show When Drinking Has Gotten Out of Control

by
author image Nancy Irwin, PsyD
Nancy Irwin, PsyD, is a doctor of clinical psychology on staff at Seasons Recovery Center in Malibu as a primary therapist and hypnotherapist and is also in private practice as a certified clinical hypnotist in West Los Angeles. A frequent media guest, Dr. Irwin is the author of You-Turn: Changing Direction in Midlife and co-authored Breaking Through: Stories of Hope & Recovery with Seasons’ clinical director, Dr. Mark Stahlhuth.

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5 Signs That Show When Drinking Has Gotten Out of Control
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It’s likely that you may know someone with an alcohol problem. According to the 2015 National Survey on Drug Use and Health, 15.1 million adults in the United States have alcohol use disorder, which is diagnosed when someone’s drinking leads to “distress or harm.” It includes both alcohol abuse and alcohol dependence. But how can you tell if someone you love is in need of help? And what if that someone is you? The following scenarios illustrate the all-too-common symptoms. If you see yourself or someone you know in these vignettes, consult with a medical and/or mental health professional to manage the condition and recover.

1. Lying, Hiding and Covering Up Drinking
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1 LYING, HIDING AND COVERING UP DRINKING

You find yourself too embarrassed to throw your empty wine bottles away in the kitchen. Because what if your roommate or partner found out how much you're drinking? So you hide them around your bedroom — a bottle or two per night. Perhaps after a few months, one of your roommates notices a stench in the apartment and follows her nose to your bedroom. While you're at work one day, your roommate finds 13 dirty, empty bottles under your bed and 16 more in your closet — shoved in boots, pockets, behind clothes and anywhere else you could conceal them.

Related: Find More Alcohol Abuse Resources on Dr. Nancy Irwin's Website

2. Obsessive Thinking About Drinking
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2 OBSESSIVE THINKING ABOUT DRINKING

You can't stop thinking about drinking. Even during your busiest days of work, you spend much of your time contemplating which bar you'll go to after work. While at the gym, you find yourself thinking about how much you'd rather be at home sipping on a nice glass of Scotch. And it's not unusual for you to skip your workouts and go home to do just that. Even during sex, your mind is fixed on how you can slip downstairs after your partner is asleep and have another shot before bed.

3. Losing Your Temper or Violent Behavior
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3 LOSING YOUR TEMPER OR VIOLENT BEHAVIOR

You come home early from work one day, livid and swearing about your boss and job. As your partner tries to calm you down and listen to your story, she realizes you're drunk. She doesn't want you to wake the baby sleeping in the next room, so she goes into the nursery to attend to him. Your rage escalates as you follow her, demanding she listen to you about how you were fired by your boss, jerking her arms back and pinning her up against the wall while the baby wails.

4. Frequently Blacking Out
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4 FREQUENTLY BLACKING OUT

You wake up (with increasing frequency, it seems) in a strange bed in yet another house that's not yours with a hangover and a lot of unanswered questions. Did you have a date last night? What was his name? Where was the date? Where did you go after? Did you have sex? Was the sex safe?

5. Having to Deal With Legal Issues
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5 HAVING TO DEAL WITH LEGAL ISSUES

You can't decide what hurt more: the handcuffs or the sound of your father’s voice on the other end of the phone as you place a call to your parents at 4 a.m. from the local police precinct. You knew it was stupid. You were only two miles from home when you left the party. You thought that if you drove really slowly you'd make it. Your father simply says: “You’re on your own this time.” A new reality spreads over you as the officer leads you to an overcrowded holding cell for the night. There's no getting out of this DUI. You're still on probation for the first one.

What Can You Do?
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WHAT CAN YOU DO?

There’s no shame in identifying as an alcoholic. Sit in on an Alcoholics Anonymous meeting, work with an addiction specialist or check into a rehab center. Find what method works best for you to get back your job, your mate, your self-respect and your life.

Related: Get Help for You or a Loved One at Seasons Malibu

What Can You Do for a Loved One?
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WHAT CAN YOU DO FOR A LOVED ONE?

Have a talk with your loved one in a time and a place where you're heard and taken seriously. Voice your concerns from a place of love and support and tell them that their drinking is harming your relationship. But don't bribe, preach, shame or blame. Also, have information and resources handy and offer to explore or do more research with them. Google can give you a list of AA meetings in your area, as well as certified drug and alcohol counselors, therapists who are addiction specialists and accredited rehab clinics all over the country.

Related: Learn How to Talk to Your Kids About Alcohol

What Do YOU Think?
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WHAT DO YOU THINK?

Do you know someone that fits this criteria? Or do you identify with some of these red flags? Were any of these eye-opening? Do you feel equipped to help a loved one get help? Or find help for yourself? Or perhaps you're in recovery for alcohol abuse. Share your stories, questions and suggestions so the rest of the LIVESTRONG.COM community can benefit from your wisdom or offer support!

Related: Find Resources to Help You Understand and Deal With Alcohol Abuse

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