Interventions to address a problem with a family member can be exceptionally difficult, both logistically and emotionally. Interventions should never be a quick decision, but rather come at the end of a lengthy planning and preparing process. While interventions may be done alone with the aid of a select few family members and friends, hiring a trained intervention specialist may be wise. An expert can help keep the intervention under control, and provide help to the family member that you may not know how to provide.
Step 1
Find a trained intervention specialist to assist you. The counselor may, at your discretion, simply provide information and support for your intervention or may attend and facilitate the intervention. An expert is not necessary, but will help enormously to make the intervention go smoother.
Step 2
Prepare a plan for what happens after the intervention. Depending on the reason for the intervention, have an appropriate goal for the individual for what happens after the intervention. For instance, if the individual has a drug dependency, select a drug recovery clinic to which to send the individual immediately after the intervention is over.
Step 3
Time and pick a place for the intervention. An intervention should not occur within strict time limitations, so do not select an opportunity when time will be limited such as before the individual's work. Additionally, try to select a time when the individual is in the correct state of mind, such as when he is sober or free from the effects of drugs.
Step 4
Select a small group of individuals to be present at the intervention. Close friends and family members should be the only ones included. Limit the group to approximately four to six individuals to avoid overwhelming the person.
Step 5
Practice the intervention with the individuals who will be involved. While the intervention should be emotional and authentic, all participants should be prepared with what they plan to say and how the intervention will go. Create a very specific order for each of you to speak.
Step 6
Prepare the room in advance by setting up chairs or other seating arrangements. The focus of the intervention should be the individual, and so all preparations for appropriate seating should be done in advance.
Step 7
Confront the individual and explain the reason for the intervention. Be clear and firm about the reasoning, and do not allow the individual to wave off the importance of the intervention or the severity of the situation.
Step 8
Outline specific instances of bad behavior, such as times when the individual was too under the influence to accomplish important tasks. Be direct and honest about how such instances made you feel.
Step 9
Provide consequences if the individual decides not to get help. The individual must know that life will not continue as it has before the intervention regardless of her choice. For instance, tell the individual that she will no longer be welcome in your home unless she gets help. Be prepared to stick to these consequences should she not seek help, and do not back down.
Tips and Warnings
- Interventions are very complex and very emotional. Even if you do not wish to have a professional present at the time of the intervention, consult a professional for tips and advice before the intervention. Many rehabilitation clinics maintain pamphlets that assist individuals in the intervention process.
- Things will change following an intervention for better or for worse. Be prepared for every possible consequence and commit fully to your decisions.
References
- Intervention Center: Frequently Asked Questions
- The Alcohol Abuse Drug Addiction Information Website: Interventions
- Christians in Recovery: Intervention Suggestions
- Dr. Sarah Goldman; New Directions Rehab Clinic; Oakland, Calif.
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