If your wife starts putting on weight, it can take some courage to speak up and tell her. Josh Piven and Jennifer Worick, authors of the book "The Worst-Case Scenario Survival Handbook: Dating & Sex," state on Match.com that speaking up about your partner's extra pounds is okay, as long as you do it in a way that's loving and supportive. Worick also warns that if you tell your wife she's gained weight, you should be prepared for her to tell you the same thing if you've put on a few extra pounds, as well.
Step 1
Ask your directly if something is wrong, recommends Piven. Say, "I notice that you've been gaining a little weight lately, and I wondered if you're feeling sick or worried about something."
Step 2
Tell your wife that you worry about her. Focus on her health not her weight, recommends Paul Campos, author of "The Obesity Myth: Why America's Obsession with Weight Is Hazardous to Your Health," in "Women's Health" magazine.
Step 3
Say something like, "I think we could both be healthier. What do you think about starting to walk after dinner?" Suggest a workout plan that you can do together. A nightly walk is a good place to start.
Step 4
Say something like, "You look fine to me, but if you're not happy with the way you look, maybe there's something you can do to change it," if your wife complains about being fat, recommends Faith Salie, host of the public radio show "Fair Game from PRI with Faith Salie" in "O, The Oprah Magazine." Do not just automatically reassure your wife that she looks great.
Step 5
Hug your wife and show your affection for her physically after conversations about her weight, so that she knows that you love her and are attracted to her. Sensitive issues like weight gain may make her feel insecure.
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