Compulsive lying can wreck relationships with family or friends. A compulsive liar does not always realize that there is a problem, and many times goes about daily life without remorse. Confronting a compulsive liar is a delicate situation that, in a best-case scenario, will result in getting psychiatric help for the sufferer.
Step 1
Determine what you want to say to the person. Accusations and finger pointing are not the ideal way of confronting a compulsive liar. Focus on ways to start the conversation without making the person feel that he is being attacked. For example, say, "I am bothered by information that I have received and would like to discuss this with you."
Step 2
Talk in private. Having others in the room or area where you will be speaking will only complicate matters by stressing the liar and making her bring up her defenses in an unhealthy manner. Embarrassment should be avoided at all cost.
Step 3
Explain to the compulsive liar how his lying affects you emotionally. In most cases, this will get the liar to thinking that he has in fact hurt others deeply and promote the desire to seek help. Do not argue with excuses and defensive attitudes from him. This will only aggravate the situation and may cause tempers to rise.
Step 4
Offer your help and support. Compulsive liars will need this in order to make a complete recovery. Offer help in finding mental health assistance, attend therapy sessions together or make yourself available anytime for conversations that may help ease her mind when doubts arise.
Step 5
Urge the liar to confront his own underlying issues through treatment. Some compulsive liars suffer from traumatic events in their past, mental disorders or low self-esteem. Treating these conditions will help eliminate the feeling that lying is needed in their life.
