Alcohol addiction does not just affect the person doing the drinking. The National Clearinghouse for Alcohol and Drug Information notes that for every person struggling with an addiction to alcohol or drugs, four other individuals are affected by their addiction. Although alcoholics are ultimately in charge of their own behavior, family members and loved ones can take steps to help them admit they have a problem and assist them in the recovery process.
Step 1
Schedule a time to talk to the person about his alcohol addiction. Select a time when he is less likely to be intoxicated and a day where you will not be rushed or interrupted.
Step 2
Begin the conversation by telling the person how much you care for her. Express how important she is to you and how much it would hurt you if something bad happened to her.
Step 3
Express your concerns about the alcohol problem. Give specific details about why you are concerned and what your fears are if he continues drinking without seeking treatment. Avoid being judgmental or condescending, and instead present your concern as factually and neutrally as possible, suggests the Partnership for a Drug-Free America.
Step 4
Listen to her response without interrupting. Although many people with alcohol problems are quick to lash out or make excuses for their behavior, do not allow the conversation to get off track. Try to see things from her perspective, and remain and calm as possible. Validate her feelings and frustrations so she is more likely to see you as an ally.
Step 5
Repeat the conversation, if necessary. Some individuals require multiple discussions before they are ready to admit they have a problem. Continue sharing your concerns and offers for help until he is ready to accept it. Recruit family members, friends and loved ones to share their concerns as well.
Step 6
Discuss goals for treatment and recovery when he is ready to seek help. Create specific goals directly related to recovery, such as making an appointment to see a substance abuse counselor or going to an Alcoholics Anonymous meeting. In addition, discuss goals indirectly related to recovery, such as getting a job or strengthening a relationship with a loved one.
Step 7
Assist the person in reaching her goals. Ask her what you can do specifically to help, as each person with an alcohol addiction has different needs, according to the NCADI. Possible ways to help may include going with her to counseling appointments, taking care of her physically as she goes through alcohol withdrawal or checking in on a daily basis for a progress report.
Step 8
Find emotional support for yourself. Go to an Al-Anon meeting or join another support group (see Resources). Vent your frustrations to a counselor. Spend time with family members, friends or loved ones that uplift you. Make time to relax and emotionally recharge so you can continue providing the necessary support to your alcoholic friend.
Tips and Warnings
- Although it can be painful to watch a person you care about suffer the consequences of his drinking, it is important to his recovery that he experiences these consequences, explains HelpGuide.org. Do not back down from sharing your concerns and your desire to see them get help. You need to be persistent to break down any denial she has about the issue, warns NCADI. Learn about alcohol addiction. Obtain fact sheets and pamphlets from the National Clearinghouse for Alcohol and Drug Information by calling 1-800-788-2800. Read books on the subject, research the condition online and call local substance abuse counselors to obtain additional information.
- Recovering from an alcohol addiction is difficult, and your friend will likely struggle through moments of weakness or relapses. Do not feel guilty or responsible if this happens. It is ultimately up to your friend to control his behavior.
