Although professionals currently debate if a lack of stamina is a physical, emotional or relational problem (or perhaps a combination of all three), an easy rule to remember is whatever is good for your body, mind and relationships, is good for your sexual stamina. Research has linked sexual stamina to all three of these areas of personal functioning, demonstrating that a holistic perspective on sexuality may just be the key to a healthy sex life.
Improving Sexual Stamina
Improve Your Physical Health
Regular sleep is the foundation of all our bodily and mental functions. Along with regular sleep, eat right, avoid excess weight gain and exercise regularly--both muscle training and cardiovascular fitness.
Improve Your Emotional Health
Learn effective stress management and allow yourself to takes breaks from work as needed. Regular vacations and other self-care behaviors are essential.
Examine You Relationship
Resolve relational issues such as unfinished emotional business, or unresolved conflicts which could be creating barriers to sexual intimacy and affecting your stamina.
Talk and Experiment With Your Partner
Some people either get out of the habit of talking and experimenting with sex, or they never develop the skill to start with. To maintain interest and thus the psychological components of stamina, get into the habit of discussing sexual matters and new things to try out.
It does not matter how the routine got started, nothing can kill sexual stamina quicker than a predictable sex routine. Find ways to integrate the unexpected into your sex life.
Learn the Meaning of Eroticism
Eroticism is not the same as sex, and the term itself carries very specific meanings for each individual. Through conversation with your partner, learn what they consider erotic, and share your own erotic fantasies.
Seek Sex Therapy
There are several sexual disorders that can underlie a decrease in sexual stamina, and a good evaluation followed by brief sex therapy can really improve stamina.
- Berry W. McCarthy and Michael E. Metz; Men’s Sexual Health: Fitness for Satisfying Sex; 2008.
- Sandra R. Leiblum (ed.); Principles and Practice of Sex Therapy; 2007.
- Janet Shibley Hyde and John B. DeLamater; Understanding Human Sexuality; 2003.