A broken friendship with your best girlfriend is just as hurtful as a broken relationship with a steady boyfriend. You trusted your friend would be there with you through the good, the bad and the ugly, but now she's out of the picture and you're not sure how to get her back. While it is possible to mend some broken friendships, you must tread lightly. Not everyone is meant to stay together.
Step 1
Open your eyes. You know your friend is mad at you but you're not sure why. Examine your past actions together and discern when she became withdrawn or angry. Perhaps something you said may have triggered her anger or disappointment.
Step 2
Talk to your mutual friends, but do not ask them to side with you. Simply ask what is upsetting your friend and whether or not you are the problem. Do not say anything negative about your friend or her decisions.
Step 3
Approach your friend gently. Do not force her to tell you what is wrong or why she is angry with you. Gently ask if you have offended her. If she does not want to talk to you, do not make her.
Step 4
Accept any responsibility you may have had in hurting your friend. It is easy to be stubborn and tell yourself you are not the problem, but when a friendship is on the line you must swallow your pride.
Step 5
Give her space. Mending hurt feelings takes time, and your friend may simply need time away from you. In some cases, the friend may realize that you are not the problem. Instead, you could be an easy target on which to release frustration. Your friend must realize this on her own.
Step 6
Consider sending her a letter or email. Do not send a letter stating your anger with her. Simply tell her that you miss her and want to patch things up. Apologize for any wrongdoings. Ask her to come back into your life.
Step 7
Allow her to come to you if you have done all you can to reconcile the friendship. She may need more time until she is ready, or she may simply not be a friend worth saving.
Tips and Warnings
- Continue to send birthday gifts and recognize achievements. Even if your friend is angry with you, you can still show her you love her. However, if the friendship is truly over, you must cease trying to win her back.
- Never spread rumors about your friend in anger. You will only fuel the fire in the fight and look childish. Never attempt to claim mutual friends. It may be tempting to band your friends against her to show her how she is "wrong," but you risk losing all of your friends in the process.
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