Millions of people are affected every year by depression and other mood disorders, according to the Depression and Bipolar Support Alliance, or DBSA. Trying to help a loved one cope with a depression can be hard, frustrating and even confusing, but certain strategies can make the process easier for you. Remember to always seek help if you feel overwhelmed or if your partner shows signs or expresses thoughts of self-harm.
Step 1
Educate yourself about depression. Know the signs, symptoms and treatment options available to people suffering from depression. This will enable you to fully participate in your partner's journey with understanding and empathy (see Resources).
Step 2
Encourage your loved one to seek professional treatment for his mood disorder. Offer to take your partner to therapy sessions, schedule appointments and help educate your partner about depression and treatment options (see Resources).
Step 3
Understand signs of worsening or dangerous depressive episodes, such as talking about suicide, feelings of hopelessness or collecting potentially lethal objects, such as guns or pills. Observe your partner's behavior and talk to her. This may tip you off if her depression worsens. Allow her to come to you with feelings and frustrations that may alert you to dangerous situations.
Step 4
Be available to engage with your partner and his feelings. He may feel the need to talk, or want to feel encouraged and supported. Be positive and use words that give hope. HelpGuide.org states that healthy statements include, "You are not alone in this," "I'm here for you" and "You are important to me."
Step 5
Suggest outings and social events to your partner. Social isolation may make depression worse. Keep trying if your partner is reluctant.
Tips and Warnings
- Know the contact information for your partner's doctors, family and friends in case you need help. Keep a record of any medications and treatments your partner takes. Locate and keep handy the information for support groups, organizations or other resources that you can access easily. Make time for yourself in order to maintain your energy and a healthy mindset. Release stress through hobbies, time with friends or engaging in spiritual pursuits.
- If depression begins to worsen, contact your loved one's doctor and encourage her to see a psychotherapist or psychiatrist, and to maintain healthy habits such as eating regular meals, getting adequate sleep and exercising.
