When on a first date, you might be so preoccupied with the conversation that you completely miss the silent signs that your date is sending you. Body language can tell you a lot about how your date feels about you and your chances for another date. Watching how he positions his arms and hands, looking for cues in his posture and looking deep into his eyes can give you clues to his feelings toward you. Similarly, being careful about what signals you're sending your date can help to ensure you send the right ones.
Step 1
Notice the posture that your date has. Someone who is slumped in her chair is showing that she is disinterested, while leaning forward in her chair shows attentiveness and interest. If she's crossing her arms against her chest, she's putting a figurative wall between you and doesn't want you to get to close to her, while leaving her chest unprotected shows that she's open to you.
Step 2
Watch his hand motions as he talks to you. According to dating website RomanceStruck.com, if he caresses his water glass or silverware while eating, it's a sign that he longs to caress you. Exposed hands means that he is interested, while keeping them clasped or against his body could denote that this is your last date.
Step 3
Look deep into her eyes. BecomeAPlayer.com notes that when someone is attracted to another person, her pupils will dilate. Watch for this dilation, or look for the telltale sign of a raised eyebrow, which is often a body language signal that is missed that shows interest and attraction to another person.
Step 4
Make subtle movements and watch for the mirroring of those movements from your date, as a way to gauge interest. BBC Relationships says that when someone is flirting, he often subconsciously mirrors the movements of his object of desire. For instance, if you were to lean forward in your chair, watch for your date to do the same. If she does, she's interested. If she doesn't, it's likely that she's less than impressed.
Step 5
Avoid judging the caliber of the date based on one or two body language signals alone. Remember to take into consideration the atmosphere, conversation and natural chemistry. Perhaps your date was very interested, but has trouble opening up and showing her feelings. Look for several signals and compare them against how you felt about the date to get an honest reading on how the date went.
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