Marriage is considered a sacred vow that is taken by two people. While there are many different religions and beliefs behind marriages around the world, commitment encompasses each one. When a spouse is unfaithful, it can have devastating effects on the marriage that lead to mistrust and in some cases separation and divorce. While personalities differ between couples, there are some common signs that a spouse may be cheating.
Lack of Emotional and Physical Desire
One sign of possible infidelity within a marriage is an overall lack of physical or emotional desire toward the non-cheating spouse. If this is abrupt or sudden---it could mean your spouse is having a physical or emotional affair with someone else. According to "Top 10 Signs of Infidelity" by Anne Bercht, a sign of your spouse becoming emotionally distant could be a sign of infidelity. Emotionally, the cheating spouse may seem uninterested in your feelings or wanting to discuss plans for the future. He could be more close minded about discussing his own feelings and what he wants out of the marriage. He may also show signs of decreased physical desire toward his wife. This includes a lack in interest in sharing close one-on-one time together, including foreplay and sexual activity.
Deception
A possible sign of one spouse cheating could be signs of covering up where she goes. The cheating spouse may outright lie about what she is doing, about the amount of her paychecks and who she may be spending time with. Lying about going on a business trip or working late hours could be a way for the cheating spouse to escape with her lover without interference from her spouse. Deception techniques of lying to the spouse and covering her affair can eventually lead to feelings of mistrust in the marriage.
Unaccountability
Being accountable for actions is a key factor in every successful marriage. When a cheating spouse is consistently unaccounted for, trust is strained because it could be a sign of infidelity. The cheating spouse may not be where he says he is or may not answer the phone at the times he normally would. Unaccountability plants seeds of doubt in the mind of the faithful spouse. Missing important family events, forgetting dates or becoming detached from family, friends and a regular routine can be a sign of infidelity---especially if the cheating spouse doesn't show up and he has no alibi or excuse as to where he was.
Mood Changes
A sudden change in mood may also signify an underlying affair. Mood changes could be either negative or positive, depending on the person. Some cheaters shower their spouse with gifts and attention when they are present in attempt to divert their recent absenteeism or lack of accountability. According to adulthoodwonderful.com, some cheating spouses may become angry or argumentative when questioned about their faithfulness to the marriage. The couple may argue more, therefore placing a wedge between them, pushing them even further apart.
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