In an abusive relationship, one partner uses physical, verbal or financial manipulation and force to control the other partner. Many people fall into abusive relationships without realizing it, because abuse usually starts out in subtle forms and escalates over time. For people in verbally abusive marriages, it can be harder to recognize and get help than for those in physically abusive situations. But if you know your spouse is verbally abusive, there is hope and help available, and you can stop your verbally abusive husband.
Find a safe place. If your husband threatens or intimidates you, or if you don't feel safe around him, seek refuge at a local women's shelter or with a trusted friend or family member. Your safety is always the first priority.
Contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline or the YWCA to locate support groups and services for abused spouses in your area. Both organizations provide free services, and the YWCA offers many locations nationwide that offer free counseling services.
Seek counseling. The effects of verbal abuse can be devastating on your self-esteem, happiness and overall well-being. It's important to find a professional therapist who can help you deal with the abuse and offer advice on how to stay safe and care for yourself.
Reach out to supportive family members and friends. When dealing with verbal abuse, it's important to find positive, supportive people whom you can rely on in case of a physical or mental emergency. Keep a list of people you can call in times of crisis.
Focus on protecting yourself and your own healing. One of the hardest parts of an abusive relationship is accepting the fact that you can't change your partner. If your partner truly wishes to change, he will seek counseling and professional help. In the meantime, work on building yourself back up and recovering from the abuse.
Join a support group. Support groups are a great way to meet other women who have gone through abusive relationships and are able to offer each other encouragement, strength and friendship. Support groups also help build your network and will help you feel less alone.