Often, the best way to tell a man you love him is through your actions. If you’re attentive and supportive, and regularly show him affection, chances are he already knows you love him. Most people, however, feel the need to vocalize their romantic feelings. If your mate doesn’t return the gesture right away, don’t fret. “Different people have a different language of love,” says relationship expert Phil McGraw. “For example, a lot of guys think, ‘I mowed the yard. Doesn't that say I love you?’ ” Allow him the time to get to where you are in terms of being vocal about his feelings.
Step 1
Set aside a quiet time and place to talk to him. The last thing you want is distractions from children, friends, family members or pets. Turn off your cell phone or PDA, and ask him to do so, as well.
Step 2
Make reservations at an elegant restaurant, or find a romantic spot, such as the beach, mountains or woods. Wear something, sexy but not too revealing. You want to tease him, not show him everything. Besides, this occasion is about love, not sex.
Step 3
Bring a romantic meal to your location, if you’re not meeting him at a restaurant, or create a romantic ambiance in your home with candlelight and soft music. You don’t need to spend a fortune. Simply prepare a home-cooked meal with his favorite foods, and buy a nice bottle of wine.
Step 4
Tell him in advance that you want to talk about something important, and that it’s something positive, not scary or negative. Prepping him this way can help settle his nerves, especially if you typically aren’t the romantic type.
Step 5
Explain to him how you feel about him, and let him know you see him as an equal. List his special qualities--the things that make you feel loved and secure. Explain why you see a future with him, and then tell him you love him. Let him it’s OK if he can’t say “I love you” back right away, and that you’re willing to give him the time and space to eventually say it to you.
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