Many men are not likely to explain their feelings outright so you might have to do a little detective work to determine whether a man is interested in pursuing a relationship with you. Study his body language to see whether he's thinking of you as a friend or something more. Trust your gut instincts, and if you don't feel that your potential partner is giving you the time of day, he probably isn't. Instead of treating your relationship status as a mystery, use the information you already have to clue yourself in.
Reading his Mind
Step 1
Notice body language hints, suggests Matt Titus, author of an article in Marie Claire magazine titled "Why Hasn't He Called?" If your date wants to touch your leg, arm, or just sit close to you, he's letting you know that he is interested.
Step 2
Listen for "abrupt changes in topic," suggests Gretchen Rubin, author of "The Happiness Project." If you are talking about your family and your date starts talking about a basketball game, he might not be listening to what you have to say, and therefore, not interested.
Step 3
Determine whether he's interested in things you like. If your date looks the other way or rolls his eyes when you talk about your interests, he's probably not interested. But if he will sit through a sappy movie with you, even though it's probably not his first choice of what to watch, he might be interested in you.
Step 4
Tell a joke and see whether he laughs. Even if your joke isn't all that funny, a man who is interested in you will laugh at your jokes, according to Titus.
Step 5
Take note of talking time. If you find yourself having to fight to get a word in edgewise, your date might be more interested in himself than you. If he is interested, he will want to find out more about you and ask you questions.
Tips and Warnings
- If your date is slouching or leaning away from you, he's likely not interested in what you are saying.
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