The never-ending fight against weight gain sometimes seems like a lost battle. One minute you're devastating the competition -- eating healthy and fighting off junk-food cravings. The next, you're back on the ropes, muttering to yourself, "I can't believe I ate that whole thing." For some, it's emotions and circumstances that can wreak havoc on a diet, whether it's a breakup, stress or pure boredom. For others, it's a never-ending cycle of new diets that promise results too good to be true and abs that look airbrushed.
No matter what trap you find yourself in, there's always a way out.
The goal is not to plan what you eat; the goal is to have a variety of healthy foods and snacks.
Beth Castle, emotional eating expert
The Trap: Emotional Eating
If the words "emotional eating" bring to mind an image of a disheveled Bridget Jones toting a pint of Ben & Jerry's, think again. Emotional eating is not just inhaling spatula-fuls of Cherry Garcia between post-breakup sobs. In reality, 95 percent of eating is emotional, says Beth Castle, an emotional eating expert in Alberta, Canada. And when emotions such as stress, grief or boredom lure you into the kitchen, you're stuck in one of the most suffocating weight traps of all.
"When people are looking for comfort, it's easy to turn to food," Castle said. "In that moment, it makes them feel better." But as soon as you finish that slice or two or three of molten chocolate lava cake, you feel even worse than you did before. The very thing that was supposed to relieve your distress makes it even worse -- sparking a vicious cycle that only ends in extra pounds.
"We need to find something to fulfill our needs other than food," Castle said, emphasizing that social interaction is key and that "laughing is often the best comfort." Sometimes, just going for a walk outside can help take your mind off food's temptations.
The most important thing to do when you fall victim to emotional binging is to forgive yourself, says Kathie Mattison, an eating disorders therapist in Rockford, Illinois. Punishing yourself for falling off the weight-loss wagon will only make the struggle worse. The moment you forgive yourself is the moment you can start taking steps to improve your relationship with food, she says.
Sometimes, it's nearly impossible to overcome emotional eating alone. If you think you may be depressed, or if your stress starts to take over your life, Mattison says the best thing to do is see a therapist or doctor.
The Trap: The Clean Plate Club
"Finish your peas." On the surface, it's a simple request that your parents might have said every night at dinner. But underneath, it reflects America's portion problem, and it's one of the most indestructible warriors in America's battle with food.
The Clean Plate Club has its roots in a World War I campaign by President Woodrow Wilson to ensure the country's food didn't go to waste. Schoolchildren were asked to sign a pledge: "At table I'll not leave a scrap of food upon my plate. And I'll not eat between meals, but for suppertime I'll wait."
Almost a century later, many are still devoted members. Though the U.S. supply of food is far from scarce, many Americans still find themselves adhering to the traditional three-meals-a-day schedule. If you limit yourself to a certain number of meals a day, Castle says you're more likely to overeat. When you save your appetite for supper, you'll probably finish that calorie-packed plate of lasagna entirely.
Castle recommends eating several smaller meals instead of carving your day around breakfast, lunch and dinner.
"The goal is not to plan what you eat; the goal is to have a variety of healthy foods and snacks," she says.
Notorious for their never-ending bowls of pasta, restaurants are one of the most delicious foes in the portion-control fight. If you have trouble putting down the fork when dining out, Castle suggests sharing meals or ordering from the kids' menu.
The Traps: The Diet-and-Binge Cycle and Nighttime Eating
You might skip breakfast, cut out carbs or even survive a week solely on cayenne pepper and molasses. Skipping meals or cutting out food groups -- techniques promised to help "drop 5 lbs. in two weeks" or "say goodbye to belly fat" -- can leave your blood sugar imbalanced and your appetites unsatisfied.
"By ignoring our bodies' signals of hunger and fullness, food is disconnected from the body's needs," Mattison said. And when you finally respond to your need to eat, you're more likely to lose control.
These habits can make you susceptible to two of the most common traps: the diet-and-binge cycle and nighttime eating. "If we skip meals, graze, keep going with caffeine throughout the day, at night we'll be hungry, fatigued and craving food satisfaction," Mattison said.
The key to avoiding both of these traps is not skipping meals and making sure you don't go hungry throughout the day, Castle and Mattison say.
"The afternoon snack is key to making better decisions at night," Castle said, adding that a piece of fruit or a cup of coffee won't cut it. She suggests having some carbs, whole grains and protein. "By the time 5 o'clock hits, we're more likely to make better decisions about what we're having that night."