Dr. John Hughes, a researcher at the University of Vermont's departments of psychiatry, psychology and family practice, states that many smokers try to quit every two to three years when their initial attempts are not successful. Most try it on their own, without the assistance of nicotine replacement products, counseling or other aids. They have a greater chance of success if supported and encouraged by their partners or other family members, Dr. Hughes explains.
Considerations
Dr. Hughes explains there are two main steps in getting a partner to quit smoking. The first is motivation, and the second is support. Motivation is often the hardest part. Only 10 percent of smokers intend to quit within the next month, while 30 percent are considering it within the next six months, according to Dr. Hughes. Thirty percent would like to quit at some unspecified time, and the remaining 30 percent do not plan to stop smoking at all. This means 90 percent of people will pose a challenge if their partners try to convince them to quit soon. Support is easier because it means helping smokers follow through once they have made a firm choice.
Process
The process of getting a partner to quit smoking is centered around asking and reducing defensiveness. Smokers who know they should stop because of the annoyance to their partners and the health risks to themselves often get irritated when confronted about quitting. This can be diffused by focusing on personal caring and the concrete ways that smoking affects the family. For example, people can explain they want their partners to stay healthy so they can be together for the long term. They can also point out that cigarettes affect them by impacting the family finances and exposing everyone to secondhand smoke.
Types
There are many types of smoking cessation aids to recommend to the partner. Dr. Hughes cites nicotine replacement products like inhalers, patches, gum and lozenges. Medical doctors dispense prescription medications. Counseling helps many smokers, either alone or in combination with nicotine therapy or medication.
Support
Partners should provide support at home and help the smoker get additional assistance. Many benefit from in-person or online smoking cessation groups. The Helpguide self-help website recommends a "quit buddy" who stops at the same time. Offer these ideas and assist the smoker in finding support groups and remember to use them during difficult times.
Considerations
Smokers get physically addicted to nicotine, but they also get stuck in the habit. Their partners can perform an important role by redirecting them when they're doing activities that used to be accompanied by a cigarette. Helpguide advises being especially alert after meals, during social occasions or when drinking alcohol. It also helps to be understanding because people who are in the process of quitting often get irritable, restless, anxious and frustrated. Their partners must ride out the mood changes.
