Everyone wants to be happy with their weight. The problem is, for most people, actually getting (and staying) there is anything but happy. Or even healthy.
“[Stressing about weight] doesn’t contribute to people’s best potential physical or mental health in the long term,” says Jodi Aman, psychotherapist and author of “You 1, Anxiety 0.” “They may obsess, yo-yo, get dangerously thin or stay heavy because of the stress of failing.”
Because in actuality, your happy weight is so much more than seeing a certain number on the scale, having a so-called “bikini body” or achieving a target BMI. (Don’t get us started on all of the flaws with that health marker!)
What Is Your “Happy Weight,” Really?
Above all else, your happy weight is happy and healthy.
“For me, it’s the place where my health, aesthetics, lifestyle and performance intersect, meaning I’m not prioritizing or sacrificing any of those goals over the other,” say Molly Galbraith, owner of the Girls Gone Strong fitness community and a former figure competitor who has since ditched restrictive eating and obsessive training for good.
“My weight has fluctuated between 152 and 185 pounds a few times in my adult life, and the interesting thing is that both my highest and lowest weights came when I struggled with food obsession and disordered eating,” she says.
“Over the last four years, I’ve healed my relationship with food and my body, and now my weight sits comfortably between 162 and 172 pretty much all the time. I would call this my ‘happy weight’ because it’s where I sit when myself and my body are most happy.”
After all, physical, mental and emotional health don’t always peak simultaneously. When they do, however, that’s when true health happens. “Your happy weight is one where you feel comfortable with your choices in that they match your values,” says Georgie Fear, RD, author of “Lean Habits for Lifelong Weight Loss.”
7 Ways to Find Your Happy Weight
OK, all of that sounds good. But how do you actually get to that place?
What Do YOU Think?
Are you at your happy weight? What signs did you notice that let you know? Or are you striving to find your happy weight? Did any of these tips help? Are there others you would add? Share your thoughts, stories and suggestions in the comments below!