Parents greatly affect their children's behavior. Children are like sponges--they model everything a parent does and incorporate what they see into their own lives. It is important that parents set the right examples for their children. Negative examples can be detrimental to a child's development and can lead to bad behavior.
Social Skills Count
Antisocial children learn their behavior from their parents' examples, according to research done by the University of Chicago published in the Journal of Abnormal Child Psychology. Social skills can be interpreted as everything from the basic polite "please" and "thank you" to speaking in front of crowds. Children model their parents and learn from them.
A Stressed-Out Legacy
A parent's reaction to stress affects the way a child reacts to stress, states the website More4Kids. If a parent reacts negatively, a child will learn to react negatively as well. In addition, negative reactions to stress, such as yelling and lashing out, can scare a child. Children can learn to shut themselves down and may even think that they are the cause of the stress. If stress is handled positively, it helps children see that their parents' love for them never changes, even when they are stressed out.
Keep Discipline Positive
The way a parent disciplines greatly affects their children's behavior, as explained on FamilyDoctor.org. When a parent elects to use physical punishment, such as spanking, it does not teach the child how to change his behavior. Children can also react aggressively to physical punishment. When parents chooses alternate forms of punishment, such as time-outs, they are helping modify the child's bad behavior in a calm manner.
If arguing among parents is done fairly and with maturity, a child can actually benefit from seeing how conflicts are resolved. Verbal and physical fights are extremely hard on kids, warns the Child-Discipline-with-Love website. Children may blame themselves for their parents' arguments and may be traumatizing for years to come. Children may develop low self-esteems and may even behave violently toward other children. Dysfunctional families breed dysfunctional children. Children often repeat this behavior in their future relationships.
Child Abuse Destroys
Child abuse causes a range of antisocial and destructive behaviors, according to the website HealthyPlace.com. This is because abused children try to cope and to understand why they are being abused. Parents who abuse their children may cause their children to be aggressive and violent, experience learning problems and even become involved in drugs or alcohol. Parents who abuse provide the opposite of what a child needs to grow up healthy. Instead, they destroy the inside and outside world of a child.
- AnythingbutWork.com: Children and Parents' Antisocial Behavior
- More4Kids.info: Effects of Stress on Kids
- FamilyDoctor.org: Child Behavior: What Parents Can Do to Change Their Child's Behavior
- Child Development Institute
- Child-Discipline-with-Love.com: Parents Fighting Hurts Children
- Healthyplace.com: How Child Abuse Affects Children